You have all heard the phrase “If you can’t beat em, join em” right? It basically means if you can’t change something that you don’t like then you can choose to change your view of it and react in a different way. We are all guilty of saying “That person made me so mad” or “This job is making me crazy” but the truth of the matter is that our own reaction to the situation is what determines how we feel.
So when you choose to accept the situation and you “join them” then you are saying that you want to have a smooth running relationship and make the best of the situation.
All that said, today when I was talking with a friend of mine trying to explain why some people are so mean to other people it hit me that the phrase could be flipped and make sense in a whole other way.
In my life I have had people that were jealous of my success or something that I was able to acquire because of my hard work. Their jealousy caused them to do things that hurt me either through their words or actions. When someone makes us angry or makes us feel insecure of ourselves then one instinct is to make that person look bad. We tell other people how awful that person is, some people even twist words or make up stories to further enforce their view of you. All it does is damage you and beat you up and make you feel worthless. The information isn’t true but it doesn’t matter because you can’t always defend yourself.
Why do humans seek to hurt other human beings? Sometimes our first response is to lay the blame on the other person so we can save face. I know this makes God sad. We see it in the very first chapter of the bible when Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit and instead of saying “yes I failed, forgive me” they sought to blame the other to safe face.
Why is it so hard to admit we were wrong, or we made a mistake, or we don’t have the same skills and abilities as another person? Why can’t we just be secure in the person God created us to be and live our lives walking in love and harmony?
If your first reaction to another person when you feel insecure or jealous is to bash them to another person, or to beat them up with your words, please rethink your reactions to the situation.
Go to God’s word and ask Him to help you turn it all around. The phrase is “If you can’t beat them, join them” not the other way around. In order to reach this nation for Christ, we all have to work together using our gifts and abilities. I can’t do everything you can, and you can’t do everything I can. So what? Together we make the perfect team. What do you say? Join me in reaching people with the message of Jesus?